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Why do people stay in relationships that are toxic?
When the issue of separation/divorce comes into play how much freedom do women have to take the necessary step, and how much freedom do they allow themselves in taking a step towards separation. Our society has convinced of some very troubling morals, that it is up to the woman to hold the marriage together, she must compromise and adjust to things should something go wrong, if the husband is not good, she must adjust for the sake of her children. But what of her life, and her happiness, it doesnt seem to be an issue of importance at all, even if this question comes into play, the the cliché question comes up, 'How can you be happy without your husband?' Happiness is only when you're together and so on...

I have often learned from the experiences of those close to me that parents are not very supportive of the girl splitting up with her husband. No matter how bad things are, they just want the woman to apologize and adjust and stay in the marriage, because what will the world say about a woman who has walked out of marriage.

there's too much moral policing involved in this and listening to all the nonsense one has to listen to, they often end up staying with the husband with whom they have issues because that seems to be a far better choice than the toxic environment that one's parents tend to create. think of how horrible that must be!


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