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Some Random Thoughts

This evening as I was preparing today's dinner I was having a conversation with my husband about the provisions we need to buy, and we decided we'll make pasta tomorrow by the time the provisions come in tomorrow. I added "don't put in the rice cooker like you did last time" and continued with my cooking and thought to myself, I wish he honed his cooking skills a bit more.Actually I see my husband as someone who helps out in the kitchen, but someone who helps out when you ask, and has taken the initiative on certain occasions and he helps out with domestic work, which I think is a good thing. But as I continued to stir the vegetables, I thought to myself of how on numerous occasions, he does cook but not that well, which is actually one of the reasons I do the cooking myself. He doesn't really put in much thought or effort like I do, and for him food is not such a big deal, if it is palatable he eats it without complaining about the taste and so on, on the other hand for me it is a bit different. I like it when food is made prepared well. So usually when he cooks something I tend to take over sooner or later, and I feel bad for being a control freak. But the problem is, does it really count as helping if the job to be done is not done well, so you feel like you rather do it yourself? I probably sound like a brat who is complaining despite her husband being so helpful and understanding about things. Yes I know he is better than most husbands and all that, but my point is won't it make things easier if he too put in some more interest and effort into these things like cooking. Most of the times it is some experiment that he does and doesn't really go too well, and I just eat it anyway because I do want to appreciate the effort he makes. It would be nice to see him try to make a good meal the same way I try to every time I cook, isn't that what equality should be all about, both of you being able to do the job in a way that doesn't force you to take over? I may be right, I maybe wrong, but it's just a thought that popped into my head so I thought I will put it out there. 

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